Photo: AnonymousWhy would anyone opt to become a robot? If you are a woman, are you kind of a nut? What about people you think shouldn’t be voting? These are some of the questions that have come up in recent election conversations, with commentators sounding them out and popular US satire shows even cracking jokes about them. If you are a man, are you smart enough? What about those you think should be happy about the news?
The thing is, the differences are more complicated. We know – the culture of human experience has been formed through domestication, evolution, and human brains being curious. All these have conditioned you to respond automatically, to appear authoritative, to feel compelled to be one of those “cool girls.” We know how to speak and behave. We may not be totally born with that innate capacity, but our families have nurtured us with all the developmental changes that allow it to exist.But how can that same general experience not also promote those other traits, the opposite of that aforementioned modesty? And where does that actually lead us?
Mental hygiene – what do you do when it comes to avoiding the temptation to be too over-indulgent with ourselves? I know this sounds creepy and unorthodox, but not so much if it’s the first thing you do when you awaken from sleep.
I have gotten into the habit of burning garlic and stuffs of lard before food, and it has not been a good idea. I know it’s not just me. If you’re a regular smoker, or have an unhealthy diet or high blood pressure, or it’s often just the time you’re transitioning into a new routine, it may be best not to go out as well.
I know I’ve been busy this morning, I don’t have a lot of energy, and now I feel that all feels a little bit hollow. I’m sure I’m just in the midst of a long day, and while the highs and lows of such a long day may be a little overwhelming, at least you know your body isn’t just going through the motions.
I’m not talking about your skinny body; you can bring up your beefs about dieting without the weight issues, but your routine and routine, your rhythm, your pace, what your body does in your downtime, are pretty much the same.
The place where the difference exists is in how we relate to body or mental hygiene, especially with regards to social and civic participation. Of course, that’s only true of those who share common traits. For those who fit into a particular “type” that may be somewhat narcissistic, people are at a much greater risk of using that mental hygiene to provoke the behavior that’s directly in their control. It would seem as though the same hierarchy holds for men and women, with the two genders similar in their strengths and needs. However, women are also more likely to be socially comfortable than men, so they may be more susceptible to thinking about the actions that could have potentially harmful results, and while men can be overly sensitive, that’s usually because of perceived weakness.
In other words, men and women tend to be depending on their social systems to get things done. Whereas women might say to themselves, “If only I were treated with the same respect as men, I could do all that better for myself,” men might also think they’d be doing all the same things for more respect than they actually are.
The problem with all of this is that we’re not doing it for ourselves; we’re doing it for our loved ones. While most of us are committed to our loved ones, it’s important to note that no matter how much we love them, or how much we want to and need to get along, we don’t get to do that for ourselves.
We will, sadly, no longer be handling more than we can handle and leaving what we love in others’ hands. There will be no need to motivate ourselves to up our standards of what’s good or acceptable. In that sense, we are giving up on our own responsibilities as well as that of our loved ones. In fact, our love is rather degraded when we are caring for others with increasing levels of unnecessary attention that distracts us from what we really love, like time with our loved ones.
There is a double-edged sword when it comes to mental hygiene, and one of the most important aspects of this potential divide is that, at least among us, it doesn’t matter. Here’s to the many more women who will elect women into office in November.